On Wed, 7 Jan 2004 14:51:17 +0900, "mr.sumo snr."
<mr_sumo@hotmail.com> brought down from the Mount tablets inscribed:

>"Haluk Skywalker" <yokoolebiri@spam.net> wrote in message
>news:btf66b$6p1mb$1@ID-201738.news.uni-berlin.de...
>> Look what I found and don't piss your BYJW off:
>>
>> Divorce your Japanese wife - and lose your kids
>> IT'S 'Bye bye, children' if you are a foreigner going through a divorce in
>> Japan.
>
>I wonder what the situation is for foreign wives of Japanese nationals.
>Something tells me that the Japanese parent will always have the advantage.

Here's a real life case being discussed on the LIFE IN JAPAN group at
the moment:

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Hello,

I am married to a Japanese man, and together we have three children.
After a lot of minute details, it comes down to me going back to the
States
in April BUT,  then he tells me that under no uncertain terms I WILL
NOT be
taking the children with me.

As I am an early education educator, I have a number of people who
know both
me and my husband to ascertain that the children would most likely be
better
off with me.

However, my husband is a very powerful man.  He is the head monk of a
temple, and will fight hard.  (so much for knowing people)

What can I do.  Does anyone know of any lawyers I can be referred to?
I do
have permanent residency.

If anyone can offer any advice, I would be most appreciative.

Sincerely,

Regina Splees, Kanagawa
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Thank you to everybody for sound advice.  From these recent three e
mails I
think I have enough to get started with.

Although James, I never mentioned RUNNING AWAY to the States!!!:)   I
just feel that financially, and being that I am not fluent in reading
and writing Japanese, I could offer my children so much more in the
States.  I don't have faith that I will be receiving any alimony.  I
had meant that I wanted to take the children with me but that he
followed up with, no you won't.

I will stay and try to work it legally, and hope that the children can
staywith me even if it has to be in Japan.

My sister, who is a lawyer in the  States and has had experience with
international marriage messes is simply worried that I may be kicked
out (even from the country), denied any access whatsoever, etc.--
Only as a very last resort will I use the running away to the states
idea, but before I would do so would want to know exactly what would
happen in  the worst case scenario.

Our household is not a physically violent one, but my husband has
suddenly shown his Mr. Hyde side and is not budging.   The cases I
have read so far in crcjapan.com  have been negative, but I am won't
give up hope.

If any pertinent info from my case pops up, I will relay that info to
the group to help out any one else in the same situation.

Thank you

Regina

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Her husband is Head Monk at some large temple in Kanagawa, by the way.




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