Here's my situation:

My wife, who is Japanese (I am American) is a possessive, jealous,
angry women who hits and screams at our 2 babies. She doesn't work,
doesn't do housework, and mostly sits around all day screaming at the
kids and watching TV. (By the way, we are now in the U.S.).

When I tell her to STOP hitting, slapping and screaming at our 2
babies (one is 6 months, the other 18), she flatly refuses, saying
that is "Japanese Way". I am ready to call the cops, the situation has
become so bad. And yet she flatly refuses to stop slapping, saying
this is "Japanese Way".

I always feel uncomfortable lately, especially if I am returning from
work,
because she'll be waiting at home in a rage -- possibly hitting my
kids all the while.

If anyone in this group can give me some good advice or resources, I
would be eternally grateful. Thanks very much. If anyone can read
Japanese, I would love to show my wife some web sites or literature
showing her that spanking/slapping, especially in the case of babies,
is both stupid and dangerous.

Also, I would like to hear from some Japanese folks on this board. Is
this REALLY the Japanese Way, or this a sad excuse from my wife in
order to justify her atrocious temper?

While an American-style threat (calling the cops) seems to have no
effect on her behaviour, is there any Japanese technique (shaming) I
could use to stop the slapping?

BE ASSURED: I am no troll. You can email me personally if you want
more details on our situation.