John W. wrote:
> Kevin Gowen <kgowenNOSPAM@myfastmail.com> wrote in message news:<2tj4jqF1uuvaqU33@uni-berlin.de>...
> 
>>John W. wrote:
>>
>>>Kevin Gowen wrote:
>>>
>>>
>>>>John W. wrote:
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>>>>>"Fabian" <lajzar@hotmail.com> wrote in message 
>>>>>news:<2thu10F1va4l2U1@uni-berlin.de>...
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>>>John W. hu kiteb:
>>>>>>
>>>>>>
>>>>>>
>>>>>>>How many companies in your home country would act as a guarantor for a
>>>>>>>new employee? At best some of the better ones might have corporate
>>>>>>>housing that they'd put you up in, if you're a truly special employee.
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>And most likely they wouldn't do it for a Japanese employee either, so
>>>>>>>take some comfort in that. You might ask for a week in a hotel or
>>>>>>>something.
>>>>>>
>>>>>>
>>>>>>
>>>>>>Completey differnet standard. Companies back home wouldnt need to, 
>>>>>>because guarantors arent required for 99% of housing.
>>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>>And there's plenty of housing in Japan that doesn't require a
>>>>>guarantor.
>>>>>
>>>>>Either way, good luck with it; I'd give a lot to have the opportunity,
>>>>>guarantor or not. I'd live in a box for the chance.
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>Why do you think Japan is Shangri-La? If you want to be there so 
>>>>badly, do something about it. Wishing is a sign of passivity and 
>>>>weakness.
>>>>
>>>
>>>So is role playing and stuff like that.
>>
>>Double-U tee eff, mate?
>>
>>
>>>Maybe someday you'll figure out life isn't that easy. 
>>
>>There is a vas deferens between "Life isn't that easy" and "I am life's 
>>bitch". It is little surprise that you are bemoaning your station as the 
>>result of your being the victim of circumstance.
>>
> 
> There's also a difference between bitching about life to friends and
> bemoaning my station in life. I'm generally very optimistic and
> upbeat.

We're not your friends.

>>>But, then, maybe 
>>>your wife molds her ambition around your life instead of it being a 
>>>mutual relationship. 
>>
>>I see. So you are molding your ambitions around her life. 
> 
> 
> Most certainly.

Not that there is anything wrong with that. I mean, *someone's* got to 
support the family.

>>Not that 
>>there's anything wrong with that. Do people in tech support even have 
>>ambition?
>>
> 
> We try not to.

It's better that way.

>>>And, of course, you don't have any kids as part of 
>>>the equation.
>>
>>Actually, I do. Well, just the one.
>>
> 
> Congratulations. Now do you think you could just up and leave both
> wife and child for a year or so to go follow what is essentially a
> selfish dream?

Of course not. Your framing of the question is the problem.

- Kevin