>It is. Unfortunately the categories that you use in your phrasing
>reflect your real thinking better than your assertions. You equate
>assertiveness with ..with "hitting 'em back" ..that's  aggressive.
>You equate non assertiveness with "passivity" "submission" "inaction"
>hence "be a loser".
>Good luck, but my experience is different.

Well, I'm not passive-aggressive. Defending one's self is NOT an act of
aggression. Nor have I ever been passive or submissive.

Cat