>hm.. I had the luck of being with "fully orgasmic" women over long
>periods of time and they were by no means assertive.. they were easy
>going, plain, natural and happy with their bodies, extremely nice
>persons to get along with.

Oh I see what you're trying to say...women who are well fucked don't
get "uppity".
LOL! That's ridiculous. I personally KNOW it's ridiculous.

>On the other side the few "assertive" (meaning innecessarily aggressive)
>females

STOP right there! "Assertive" and "aggressive" are not the same thing.
It is entirely possible to be assertive without being aggressive.

> i ever touched were terrible in bed. I suspect "assertive" males
>are equally disappointing. Too much energy going down the wrong channels..

Wrong again. I have found that assertive men are by far the best
lovers. Sexual energy IS assertive. It's a hunger that needs to be
satiated. That passive women appeal to some men is no real surprise.
Always - with sex - there is a question of compatibility. 

Cat