Path: ccsf.homeunix.org!ccsf.homeunix.org!news1.wakwak.com!nf2.xephion.ne.jp!nf1.xephion.ne.jp!onion.ish.org!gcd.org!news.yamada.gr.jp!newsfeed.media.kyoto-u.ac.jp!newsfeed.icl.net!newsfeed.fjserv.net!newsfeed.freenet.de!feed.news.tiscali.de!newsfeed01.sul.t-online.de!newsfeed00.sul.t-online.de!t-online.de!border2.nntp.dca.giganews.com!nntp.giganews.com!wn13feed!worldnet.att.net!bgtnsc04-news.ops.worldnet.att.net.POSTED!53ab2750!not-for-mail From: "Rykk" Newsgroups: fj.life.in-japan References: <41cfc8bb$0$4534$afc38c87@news.optusnet.com.au> <41cff57f$0$5126$afc38c87@news.optusnet.com.au> <517Ad.40129$uM5.36573@bgtnsc05-news.ops.worldnet.att.net> <5HZAd.49204$uM5.29093@bgtnsc05-news.ops.worldnet.att.net> <5A1Bd.4793$5R.1438@newssvr21.news.prodigy.com> Subject: Re: Moving to Japan Lines: 61 MIME-Version: 1.0 Content-Type: text/plain; format=flowed; charset="iso-8859-1"; reply-type=original Content-Transfer-Encoding: 7bit X-Priority: 3 X-MSMail-Priority: Normal X-Newsreader: Microsoft Outlook Express 6.00.2900.2180 X-MimeOLE: Produced By Microsoft MimeOLE V6.00.2900.2180 Message-ID: Date: Fri, 31 Dec 2004 05:28:57 GMT NNTP-Posting-Host: 12.77.16.178 X-Complaints-To: abuse@worldnet.att.net X-Trace: bgtnsc04-news.ops.worldnet.att.net 1104470937 12.77.16.178 (Fri, 31 Dec 2004 05:28:57 GMT) NNTP-Posting-Date: Fri, 31 Dec 2004 05:28:57 GMT Organization: AT&T Worldnet Xref: ccsf.homeunix.org fj.life.in-japan:23890 necoandjeff wrote: > Rykk wrote: >> necoandjeff wrote: >>> Rykk wrote: >>>> necoandjeff wrote: >>>>> Rykk wrote: >>>>>> necoandjeff wrote: >>>>>>> Rykk wrote: >>>>>>>> Mr. Smith wrote: >>>>>>>>> "Michael Cash" wrote in >>>>>>>>> message news:k980t0hhmfdi4fpu78lqkg3bn17vp34dop@4ax.com... >>>>>>>>>> On Mon, 27 Dec 2004 21:44:04 +1000, windsor >>>>>>>>>> brought >>>>>>>>> >>>>>>>>>>> Depth of rapport with the interviewer is also important. >>>>>>>>>> >>>>>>>>>> That's a very pleasant way of rephrasing "sucking up". >>>>>>>>> >>>>>>>>> that's silly, "sucking up" is usually a poor way to impress >>>>>>>>> someone at an interview. It usually means you don't have >>>>>>>>> anything interesting to say and you are easily intimidated. >>>>>>>> >>>>>>>> Unfortunately that would be me. Not that I am so much >>>>>>>> intimidated the person as by the act of attempting to establish >>>>>>>> rapport. It isn't that I have nothing to say either, but that >>>>>>>> I am completely uninterested in all non-functional >>>>>>>> conversation. So as long as the conversation is pertinent I do >>>>>>>> fine. But if it turns to something trivial such as the >>>>>>>> weather, or personal, "I had a baby yesterday," then I am >>>>>>>> filled wave of disinterest. I have absolutely no idea how to >>>>>>>> respond to these completely irrelevant remarks. Interviews >>>>>>>> seem to involve one non-sequitor after another. >>>>>>> >>>>>>> Wow. Aren't you supposed to preface a confession like that with >>>>>>> something like. "Hi, my name is Rykk and I'm a suffering >>>>>>> self-a-holic"... >>>>>> >>>>>> Heh, are you trying to imply that I'm conceited? >>>>> >>>>> No implication required. You said it quite clearly yourself I >>>>> thought. >>>> >>>> Then you are just misunderstanding me and making assumptions. >>>> >>>> I fail to see how being disinterested in non-functional >>>> conversation equates to conceit. >>> >>> "But if it turns to something...personal...then I am filled wave of >>> disinterest." It seems you are only interested in talking about what >>> you deem to be worthy of conversation rather than what someone else >>> considers worthy. Doesn't that suggest a little me-ism at work? >> >> It should suggest nothing of the sort. It isn't as if I want to talk >> about myself. I just want to keep conversation to a minimum. I'm >> not one of those people that enjoy talking or being talked to. > > Exactly the kind of thing the interviewer wants to know... I never said it isn't. I'm just saying that I have a hard time developing rapport because of it.