Al <al@privacy.ne.jp> wrote:

> The problem (if one may say that) is that although the majority of those
> in my large enough social circle are women, and although they appear to
> enjoy hanging out with me, coming to social events I organise or
> paticipate in, and visiting my home, I cnnot pick up any signals that
> make me think any of them is interested in me any more than on a social
> level. To find out more about what I really would like to know, I need
> to 'send message", I think, and I would like to do that in a polite,
> non-invasive, and cheerful manner. So... how to say it in Japanese? Is
> there any recommendable esource for the inept or ignorant?

> Any considerate advice would be much appreciated!

Here's a radical idea; just ask 'em out.

Worked for me.

Mike