"The 2-Belo" <the2belo@msd.biPOKPOKglobe.ne.jp> wrote in message
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> Haluk Skywalker and fj.life.in-japan is a baaaaaaaaaaad combination:
>
> >Look what I found and don't piss your BYJW off:
> >
> >Divorce your Japanese wife - and lose your kids
>
> The only reasonable preventive measure one can take in this situation
would be
> to not have kids in the first place.

Or abduct them yourself first? Kind of like an abduction arms race.

Wasn't a guy on here a while ago talking about how he hid his wife and kid's
passport so they couldn't take off on him?

> But I'm sure you've heard this misanthropic
> crap out of me before. Mheh.

I find it quite incredible that the linguist dude was living in Japan for 16
years yet did not know about this aspect of Japanese law until his wife took
off on him.

So as a man in Japan, if you get divorced you lose your kids but keep your
house and most of your paycheck. Unless you're a foreigner, in which case
the house is probably in her name.

A friend of mine (Japanese) got divorced. He had a child, lost all custody
but ended up owing no money to her (well, except for the loan she took out
in his name just before the divorce). The ex wife got into a pretty sorry
financial state, and as she knew he wanted to see his kid she would say,
"give me 10,000 yen and you can see him for an hour."

He did it for a while, but then after a bit she started calling on the day
of the meeting and saying, "I want 20,000 yen instead of 10,000 or you can't
see him today" and such. He got fed up, stopped talking to her, and hasn't
seen her or his kid in about 6 years now. I suppose this type of story is
fairly common.

-- 
Regards,
Ryan Ginstrom