Here is the ad I recently came up with.  I do not know if we would be suited
for one another or not.  But I thought it worth a try.

Sorry for the length of this post.  But I am looking for someone as unique
as I am when it comes to certain things.  I know that being spanked is not
for every woman and even those who welcome it do not do so for the same
reasons as everyone else.

I am not for everyone, and everyone certainly isn't for me.  So, if you read
this and do not relate to what is said, please do not reply to explain that
or admonish me for my opinions or desires.  I am not looking to impose any
kind of lifestyle or values upon another person.  Rather, I am hoping to
find someone who is happy with who they are, but who happens to be like I
am, when it comes to male/female intimacy, even if they sometimes seem
outmoded for the modern world.

As to the basic boy meets girl things, I am a single, white male of Celtic
origins, living in the Northeast of the U.S. with a midwestern background,
but very open to the idea of relocating with or for the right woman.  I am 5
'10" on the slender side with short brown hair and eyes.  Be you from Sweden
or Japan, Irish or Indonesian, or just an American mutt like me, I am hoping
to meet and meld with a single woman of childbearing age who appreciates the
finer points of a good spanking as part of a genuine, romantic relationship.
I do not expect a relationship to automatically lead to marriage and Happily
Ever After.  However, I love kids, do not have any as of yet, and very much
hope to before too much longer.  But first things first.  I am too big a
believer in chemistry to leap into anything before its time.  I know such
things as commitment and children come after two people have had time to
merge their hearts and futures together.  Of course I want someone I am
attracted to and who is attracted to me.  I am not a man of large stature,
quite average in fact.  I simply do not tend to "fit" well with overly tall
or overly large women.  So if you are a runway model or a fuller-figured
gal, or do not have interest in the potential of a long-term relationship
you might as well stop reading now.

Here goes . . .

Good man seeks good girl for the Big Love.  Spanking-related discipline as
part of a romantic relationship entered my life in early college, when a
girlfriend introduced me to it.  I have enough experience to know there are
many different takes on this stuff. I am by no means a leather Master Bob
type "Dom".  But other than that, I have enough of the dominant, romantic
Rhett Butler in me with a healthy dose of paternal instinct to spank very
much for real when a woman relates to such things.  I feel the details of
such things are found in the connection between the two people and I base
such things very much upon what she relates to and her sensitivities to such
things.  I have spanked girls for procrastination or overspending, but I
know other women might find such things silly or even take offense to the
notion.  I have spanked to help a girl maintain discipline and for
punishment when a girl felt guilty about something she should not have done.
I have spanked out of sexual passion when the fires burned the brightest or
when someone was being frisky and playful.  That stuff is not the hard part,
as most spankable women relate to all that on some level.  But the deeper,
more personal stuff is another matter.

I have never taken well to genuine "brats" as I am myself a compassionate,
thoughtful person and I find it hard to admire someone who with a
self-absorbed nature or who derives pleasure from making other people
miserable.  But I do have a weakness for women who will always have a
sweet-natured, if mischievous girl in her heart.  I have always said it is
the man who admires and desires the woman, but the boy in the man who falls
in love with the girl in the woman, even if his man can take her girl to
task for being so "naughty by nature"!  After having some love affairs with
women who were raised with traditional values when they were girls I have
come to find that I do not just seek a nice girl, but a good girl.  Now, all
good girls ARE nice girls, but not all nice girls are good girls.

Do you have a weakness for old fashion, knee-weakening romance?  But find it
thrilling when such things open doors to a deeper intimacy and the heated
release of unbridled passion?  But still, do you also have an emotional tug
of war about such things, at times, between the lil devil on one shoulder
wanting the see-through brassieres and all they imply, and the lil angel on
the other shoulder saying "Why you Bad Girl!  You should be ashamed of
yourself!!"?

Did you grow up feeling that "good girls don't" and felt like a bad girl
when you did, even if you could not help but do such things?  Did that just
make them all the more powerful and exciting for you, even if you felt that
old fashion "good girl guilt" for real?  Despite being a fully realized
woman in the modern world, is that girl still a part of you?  Does she still
need to be swept off her feet by a charming man for being so adorable, so
she can remember how loved she truly is?  Does she need kissed by a
passionate man until her knees are weak for being so desirable, so she can
feel he "made her" give into her naked passions?  But even then, does she
sometimes need to be taken over the knee of a stern man for being so
potently naughty and spanked until she is truly sorry and willing to make up
for it by surrendering every drop of her passions to his capable hands,
mouth, heart and soul until she is spent and quivering in his gentle arms?
If so, we may have some things in common.

I find such traditional qualities of propriety and modesty in a nice,
romantic girl to be very appealing to the tenderhearted, Jimmy-Stewart-from-
"It's a Wonderful Life" side of a romantic man; even though I can find other
aspects of her to be quite stimulating when it comes to a man's passionate
Rhett-Butler-from-a-steamy-romance-novel side.  And I also have within me a
strict and commanding Victorian stepfather side that can be quite stern with
a girl when certain primitive fires begin to stir.

One might say I was raised progressively about all such things but was
converted by old fashion, good girls later on.

Do you think you ARE a "good girl"?  Perhaps so, but to what extent?  Do you
relate to any or all of what I am about to say?

When you actually were a girl, did you feel naughty about certain secret
thoughts or feel like you were a bad girl for what you did in secret under
the covers at night?  Does part of you still feel that it was proper that
you felt that way about such things, even if you have outgrown such feelings
now?

When you were older and boys, or even grown men, began to notice your figure
in "that way" did you find it flattering, but when you felt the "hands of a
man's mind" reach that last bit of elastic or lace feel like you were
naughty for it?  And if you actually liked it and wanted him to, feel like a
very bad girl indeed?

Now that you are grown up, are you capable of being a modern woman but also
an old fashion girl?  Do you not love it when the man who loves you knits
his body to your own and you become one heart, one being?  And in the
morning do you not feel wholesome and healed as you lounge naked in the sun
and he feeds you strawberries between cuddles and caresses and you run your
fingers through his hair as he quietly nestles into your bosom and is
himself newly whole and healed from the woes of the outside world?

But on another night, when his kisses melt the floodgates in your soul and
your glistening lips dare to ignite the savage fire in his own and he does
not make love to you, but breaks through those civilized bonds of romance
and TAKES you - takes you completely, spanking you with his hips until you
cry out, almost pleading for mercy, do you not feel that you are simply
getting what a good girl has coming to her for being such a bad girl under
her nightgown?

Does your heart swell with sentimental mush when the White Knight in your
life has a crush on you the size of Alaska or when he wakes you with a kiss
and you see the roses he put on your dresser the night before?  But then, on
some other night, do the roses of your breasts swell with desire when he
peels the straps from your shoulders and that last layer of modesty falls to
the floor so that you are wearing only the candlelight and his eyes, only to
flush to your toes with shame when you look in his eye and see they have
awoken that fiery dragon deep within him?  And when you are intoxicated with
such passion do you not love it so and crave such organic electro-magnetism
in your private life, but feel, then or later, like a bad girl for liking
and wanting it as much as you do?  Can you welcome the opportunity to make
up for it as only a true good girl can?

Can you see yourself in a love of a lifetime that rivals the most passionate
novel ever written, but one that finds you being paddled in the parlor for
what you were so guilty of in that bedroom the night before?  Can you feel
in your heart of hearts the difference between your natural, feminine
nakedness inspiring the elegant, romantic restraint of that chivalrous
Knight as he gently sets you on a cloud and takes you to the supreme height
of physical Love, from the times your inherently wicked wiles wake that
dragon and you tempt him from his lair to devour you completely?  Do you
find within you an equal power and desire for both, but truly feel you can
deserve smooched to blissful sleep for the one but warrant a shameful
whippin' in the woodshed for the other?  Over and over again, sometimes one
and sometimes the other as your mutual love progresses and grows deeper and
more intimate and more complete?  Where such things are not a game or
make-believe, but rather the way things were meant to be: a wonderful
symbiosis between a man and a woman with unique temperaments and desires,
passion and compassion, and the give and take of a lustful love of life
balanced by a proper and disciplined romantic civility?

I hope so, because I know such things are possible, wonderfully so, even if
I am a realist who keeps his feet on the ground when it comes to knowing the
difference between a romantic ideal and the reality of such ideas. And I
also know from experience there is a profound difference between a woman who
has such a duality of spirit between the proper good girl and the naughty
bad girl, but does not like that fact, or one who will submit to being taken
to the woodshed for being such a bad girl but cannot find that a healthy and
positive experience vs. a woman who is happy that she is a good girl and
feels she should be, even though she would never want to be with a man who
she did not ignite in such passionate ways, but who also welcomes truly
being held accountable for it in the woodshed and the bedroom, by the one
person who cares most for her overall well being, but who means it when he
does it, happily ever after.

So if you are still reading this, and are now inclined to want to know more
about me and think we do in fact have some potential compatibility, please
let me know.  Maybe there are many other more common interests that we share
and would like to share together.

I am happy to take this at any pace you feel comfortable with.  I am an
honorable and honest man with a good heart and I look forward to you
learning that truth in your own good time.

I will send recent photos of myself upon your reply to this posting, but
would of course welcome at least one photo of you in return.

Thanks for listening.

looking_4_d_1@hotmail.com