Japanicus Autocentricus <JapanicusAutocentricus@japan-autocentricus.co.jp> wrote in message news:<1073491734.661640@irys.nyx.net>...
figure soon after marriage.
 
> 1.1 IS SHE FOR REAL?
> 
> Now you asked if she's for real. Yeah, she's certainly for real. A
> marriage for many Japanese isn't about love. That's just an Orwellian word 
> that sounds better than the reality. One reality is that she expected to 
> marry a guy just like her pussy-whipped father.  The other reality, and 
> the one that finds her living with you in the states, is that she got 
> married to you because of her school girl fantasies of living as a spoiled 
> housewife in a big house in an American suburb with some faceless foreign 
> husband who alternated between Tom Cruise for cute and Harrison Ford for 
> masculinity are not part of the reality she finds herself in.

I`ve found poking my wife generally helps me determine whether she is
real or not.  Of course the usual response to that is a well aimed
knee so your milage may vary.
 
> 1.2 LOGIC?
> 
> The first rule when dealing with a stereotypical Japanese woman is to
> throw logic out of the window.  The use of Reason alone will get you 
> nowhere my friend!  But reason is not the same as communication, so go 
> ahead and talk, rant, tell her how you feel.  Just don't expect any 
> changes right  away, because you're dealing with emotions here and you're 
> just planting seeds.
> 
> Tell her you'll accomodate and support her in a Japanese way, but that
> since she decided to marry an American, she has to come halfway to your 
> side, too.
> 
> Every marriage comes with a 20 year marital torture guarantee. Don't think
> you're getting out of it.  Your ancestors did it for you, now it's your
> turn.

And this is different from women of any race/nationality how exactly? 
Newsflash, if you think this is specific to Japanese women you also
think she won`t be using things you did weeks/months/years/before you
met her ago against you in a fight.  You obviously need more
experience with women bub.