Path: ccsf.homeunix.org!ccsf.homeunix.org!news1.wakwak.com!nf1.xephion.ne.jp!onion.ish.org!news.daionet.gr.jp!news.yamada.gr.jp!newsfeed.media.kyoto-u.ac.jp!newsfeed.gamma.ru!Gamma.RU!fu-berlin.de!uni-berlin.de!not-for-mail From: Eric Takabayashi Newsgroups: fj.life.in-japan Subject: Re: Killer father gets 5 years for son's brutal death Date: Wed, 28 Jul 2004 19:29:25 +0900 Lines: 54 Message-ID: <41078005.7B8F028C@yahoo.co.jp> References: <73fde4f0.0407260927.49162396@posting.google.com> <4105AE44.5030509@yahoo.com> <001cg09a86ln1tp9u278dbp3t9m5lb36dh@4ax.com> <5tfcg0da028u1j3n4n744b7v12s53br0h9@4ax.com> <410694A6.3020501@yahoo.com> <4106A81B.1664D719@yahoo.co.jp> <1ghmek9.1ru95h7hiytpiN%dame_zumari@yahoo.com> Reply-To: etakajp@yahoo.co.jp Mime-Version: 1.0 Content-Type: text/plain; charset=iso-2022-jp; x-mac-type="54455854"; x-mac-creator="4D4F5353" Content-Transfer-Encoding: 7bit X-Trace: news.uni-berlin.de rjjZacTQCE6B842FjJ1uUAnbYoTeouDX0+Zy3bzz96fQwkxJxr X-Mailer: Mozilla 4.79 (Macintosh; U; PPC) X-Accept-Language: ja,en Xref: ccsf.homeunix.org fj.life.in-japan:15800 Louise Bremner wrote: > Eric Takabayashi wrote: > > > > The thing that constantly 'gets me' about these stories isn't so much > > > that it happens; > > > > It certainly does get me that the best way such people can think of to > > quiet a crying infant or toddler is to beat them, pound their head on > > something, or to throw them. > > No thought involved at all.... BS. In many of these cases, it is clearly reported that there is evidence of prior abuse, such as hospital records showing a history of suspicious injury or outright admission of abuse. They know damned well what they are doing, particularly the next time. > Have you ever had to look after a small > child who wouldn't stop crying, no matter what you do? Yes. Perhaps for two years, each. And guess what? I didn't abuse my babies for being babies or for keeping me awake or taking from what used to be my free time, or for costing me money when they lose, damage or destroy their toys or my personal belongings. No raised voices merely because I lost my temper, no beating, shaking, throwing or hitting with objects for any reason. No depriving them of meals or putting them outside or in the closet. Yes, I spanked on rare occasion when they were toddlers, but only to get their attention, and not to make them cry, for example, when they were hurting each other having a biting argument. They soon stopped that behavior and so did I. My most serious punishment to date was a few weeks they had to go without ice cream. That happened once. Now the simple threat of being sent alone to another room to play or read alone to keep them from fighting or being too rambunctious is sufficient. And recently, if they fight over a toy, it gets taken away, which also is effective. Haven't had to carry out on a threat of one day without watching Pokemon yet. Feel free to come to my home to request a personal examination of my children or to consult with their teachers if you want to find out what kind of kids they are or how I treat them. Review their medical records to look for signs of abuse or suspicious conditions. Call the police or social services on me. I'll tell you how to find us. Your point? > There's that > instant where something snaps. Most people can catch themselves just > before they lash out, most of the time. Precisely why parents like these who abuse or kill those whom they should love the most, should be held responsible.