Habar wrote:
> 
> As a 32 year old man, you should not be so pussy-whipped as to follow your
> girlfriend to an unknown land, no matter how exciting, where your status
> will be lower, where you will be the outsider. In short, you will
> be playing on her territory. You're going to loose status. You'll loose
> face. And nothing counts more than face and status in the world. A devoted
> man? Forget about it. If you were intent on building a family with her,
> you'd be looking out for yourself first, and taking her along for long
> haul, wherever it is most advantageous for you.
> 
> In Japan, you'll have no specific advantage of having a Japanese
> girlfriend, everyone has one. Read over the English teaching stories and
> see if it fits your plan for the next five or ten years.
> 
> Then do a search on Google for the Japanese Wife 101 posting. Read that.

How to deal with a Japanese wife 101
http://groups.google.co.jp/groups?selm=asi44o%24prd%241%40cobalt01.janis.or.jp&output=gplain