ifignow wrote:

> "Gerry" <222ggg@spam.really.sucks> wrote in message
> news:261220032308255488%222ggg@spam.really.sucks...
> > I think you'll find that the world is generally composed of the same
> > people one would meet in bars, churches and "those places".
>
> Your world, yes.  My world, no.
>
> >  As I said
> > earlier, this just seems to underscore some basic social deficiencies
> > on your part. Everybody everywhere is stupid except you.  Where would
> > someone thinking that find the not-a-lay you're purportedly looking
> > for.
>
> It could be that, indeed, most people have basic social deficiencies.  I've
> found what I'm looking for in the past, whether you believe it or not.
>
> > Another freebie of experience that will bounce off that metal tank you
> > call a head: it's all about volume. Going to a church group or bar once
> > or twice and finding a stupid person--then giving up, that's not a
> > method that's an excuse. You have to go repeatedly.  It's about volume.
> > Think of the odds.  Do you think all people are stupid, or just the
> > three you said "hi' to in a bar once 4 years ago?
>
> I could say the same about the net, but the difference is that I don't have
> to waste money on bad drinks or church donations for a god I don't believe
> in.
>
> > The reason you can't and don't go is that it's frightening to you.
>
> No, I've done plenty of both in the past.
>
> > You just want Ms "not-a-lay" to show up and
> > provide you that nameless something.  And why is it you can even say
> > you wouldn't mind getting laid out of the deal. Sheesh!
>
> Show me where I said "I wouldn't mind getting laid out of the deal".
>
> > If you prefer, stand at the bottom of an escalator at a mall and ask
> > every visually viable candidate out as she comes down.  VERY low yield,
> > and tough on the psyche.  But productive. Do it for 8 or 10 hours and
> > you'll be surprised how many hits you can actually get, if you have the
> > determination. You don't.  You can't.
>
> Actually, I have done that sort of thing before too.  I like the better
> quality control of the net though.
>
> > > That's the kind of armchair psychology that used to be touted in the
> > > media in the mid-1990s, but times are different now.
> > Nothing whatever has changed about humans.  We have new gizmos.  Big
> > deal.
>
> Times do change, whether you choose to keep up or not.  Let me know when you
> are an old man and people laugh at you for your outdated sensibilities.  You
> sound like one of the Victorians who felt that gentlemen shouldn't use
> telephones because they are "indecent".
>
> > > Several major net dating sites have more women than men.
> > That's because they can't find the millions of men that won't leave
> > their house. Now, both TV's and computers keep the fearful occupied.
> > Nothing's changed.
>
> See above.
>
> > You citing "media" and websites shows what you know
> > about people; you believe what somebody told you about them.
>
> As opposed to believing hearsay, or making self-righteous comments about "my
> own experience"?
>
> > > No, actually.  The way someone writes says all about them -- what is
> > > his education?  What is his personality?  A guy who puts on an act
> > > when he walks into a room reveals little.
> > Not so. A man who walks with confidence has got confidence.
>
> Sure, a ghetto thug "walks with confidence", but that does not improve who
> he is.
>
> >"They're stupid" is away
> > of avoiding learning to navigate those waters.
>
> Just as you avoid intellectual topics?
>
> >When you walk in the
> > place they know you're incompetent socially.  You say it with every
> > step and you will until you rise to the challenges.
>
> Let me know when ghetto thugs can get into graduate school because they
> "walk in with confidence".
>
> >wit and humor; highly prized, impossible to fake.
>
> Yes, education is impossible to fake.
>
> > A guy can
> > write all about his field of study and not be worth shit as either a
> > dinner companion or a lover.
>
> You're right, people from better classes will make lousy companions of the
> ghetto crowd.
>
> > In any case "prose style" is not currently nor will it ever be on the
> > list of "must-haves" with women or men at any station of life.  Dream
> > on!  If that were really true you'd have to get some prose style
> > too--you'd be doubly screwed!
>
> Being uneducated is not currently nor will it ever be on the
> list of "must-haves" with women or men at any station of life.  Dream
> on!  If that were really true you'd have to get some prose style
> too--you'd be doubly screwed!
>
> > What the hell are you talking about.  People can't start a relationship
> > before finding out exactly how bald and short you are.
>
> I am neither bald nor short.  That is merely your wishful thinking.
>
> > I have to killfile you now, because I pity you so much I want to help
> > you.
>
> The coward runs!

Perhaps someone as smart and better than others as yourself (due to graduate
education or perhaps your color) should learn sooner to simply wait until they
got back home to get what they are looking for, and not expect to find whatever
it is (you seem to imply something meaningful or even marriage) in two weeks in
Japan. From what you are saying about Japan and what Japanese in general feel
about those who do what you do, you are not going to fit in.

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