Thanks to all for the advice and various suggestions. On the basis of a 
thoroughly unscientific survey of romantic and not-so-romantic 
establishments in Tokyo over the weekend, here are some plus/minus 
points for some of the places we went to for anyone who cares.

1. The Fukuoka Kaikan just down the road from the British Embassy is not 
a good place for a romantic lunch, though the actual lunch itself was 
pretty damn good. We ended up eating there because the section of the 
British Embassy I needed to visit was closed until mid afternoon. (In 
case any one is curious, the British Embassy is also not a good place to 
start romancing. While she thought the architecture was rather 
natsukashii, the security at the gate shocked her a little. I had to 
drag her in there because I had to file some papers. We then had to head 
to the Irish Embassy, which inevitably perhaps, was actually quite fun)

2. A high ceiling, peace and quiet and some smoke free space is not 
usually what comes to mind when you say "The Shamrock" near Kichioji 
station. We were killing time before dinner. Her first ever Guiness was 
poured and brought to the table by a young gentleman wearing and 
speaking green. "What language was he speaking Dekuran?", "English 
darling, English", "It wasn't Irish?", "No darling, it was English", 
"Are you sure?", "Yes dear, it wasn't Mikawa-ben, so it must have been 
English", "But what language did you reply in?" etc etc etc.

3. Niraikamei Okinawan restaurant also in Kichioji was kinda fun, except 
that you are packed in elbow to elbow. The beer from Ishigaki was damn 
fine, and if you are reading this Ryan, I found that I actually liked 
eating fried pig's ears. The bar staff apparently also read fjlij - as 
Ryan's awamori based cocktail recipe was doing the rounds. In most cases 
with a dash of blue curacao, even though I couldn't see any gaigin 
around resembling Bryan.

4. Kubakan in Aoyama was simply heaven.

5. The bar at the top of the tower of the New Otani Hotel was 
surprisingly small and noisy, probably due to a table of 8 or so 
eurotrash gaigins across the way from us. Nice yakei views, though 
motoakasaka was just a great black hole. Enjoyed a very nice Fonseca 
port, but its not the sort of place to go down on one knee in.

6. Tete-a-Tete (mega thanks to John Yamamoto Hyphen Wilson) was also 
good. We didn't arrive until late, and with the exception of another 
couple had the place to ourselves. The duck was good, the wine better, 
the dessert wonderful. Very nice atmosphere.

7. Garden Lounge at the New Otani has a nice brunch. Its a nice place to 
slowly wake up in when you sleep in until 11. I hadn't been to the 
garden there before and was interested in its history. The garden itself 
is nice-ish, though nowhere as nice as the Ii family's other garden down 
in Hikone. About the only thing spoiling the place was a noisy sepponian 
photographer screaming and shouting instructions to the family he was 
shooting pictures of.

8. At Tokyo station, a lazy lunch/afternoon downstairs in Mikuni. The 
only time I've ever seen kaiten sushi look appetising. Dessert in the 
train style dining cars - a good idea as you have a lot of privacy but 
don't feel boxed in.



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The captain is brave, he's a fearless man,
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The wheel, she break, and lose all control;
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