In article <1073417990.99813@irys.nyx.net>, Habar <habar@mail.cmm>
wrote:

> As a 32 year old man, you should not be so pussy-whipped as to follow
> your girlfriend to an unknown land, no matter how exciting, where
> your status will be lower, where you will be the outsider.

Hmm. Even if your girlfriend goes some place cool that you'd like togo
and where you have a girlfriend already (her), you can't go. Some
nameless "status" (Japan's, the UK's, yours?) will be bent. Fascinating
logic.

> In short, you will be playing on her territory. You're going to loose
> status. You'll loose face. And nothing counts more than face and
> status in the world. A devoted man? Forget about it. If you were
> intent on building a family with her, you'd be looking out for
> yourself first, and taking her along for long haul, wherever it is
> most advantageous for you.

You know less than nothing about this person, this woman, their life,
their desires. Just abstract concepts of "face" and "status" and
"position", all of which are vague and irrelevant. Can comprehend a
relationship that's not a competetive psychological war-game?
 
> In Japan, you'll have no specific advantage of having a Japanese
> girlfriend, everyone has one. Read over the English teaching stories
> and see if it fits your plan for the next five or ten years.

Jesus.  So far one of the best views I've seen tendered is to listen to
you and do exactly the opposite.

> Then do a search on Google for the Japanese Wife 101 posting. Read
> that.

I'm guessing, but I'll suppose it's less than useful, and specifically
counter-product.

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