"Haluk" <yokoolebiri@spam.net> wrote in message
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> "Ryan Ginstrom" <ginstrom@hotmail.com>, haber iletisinde ?unlar?
> yazd?:bnn54f$13ju1r$1@ID-101276.news.uni-berlin.de...
> >
> > "Bryce" <fukuzzz@takethisout.hotmail.com> wrote in message
> > news:aBBnb.429$Ru1.51663@news.uswest.net...
> > >
> > > "Michael Cash" <mikecash@sunfield.ne.jp> wrote in message
> > > > They may succeed and live the life of Riley here, staying until they
> > > > die at a ripe old age. Or they may get disgusted and leave in six
> > > > months, taking with them a profound and everlasting hatred of Japan.
> > > > Or anything in between.
> > >
> > > It's bittersweet either way I think.
> >
> > It could be worse -- unable to handle the real Japan, you could be
forced
> to
> > flee to a small subtropical island, and while away your time on some
> beach,
> > drowning your sorrows in awamori.
> >
>
> Or to thirld world country, drowning your sorrows in Jack Daniels...
>
> One sure thing is living in Japan -at least as a spouse to JW, remarkably
> and irrevocably changes your life.
>
> I always envied people with simpler lives, such as those who are married
to
> someone from their culture, or their country. Because in my case anyway,
> there was always something missing. Don't get me wrong I loved my wife but
> either I wasn't very much happy or she'd be miserable. We even thought
> living in a third country such as US or Europe, hoping to find a place
where
> both of us could be reasonably familiar with the culture.
>
> I remember the "homesick crises" that hit me at intervals. First was like
a
> month after I arrived Japan and it took me about 2 months to feel better.
I
> later figured out that it wasn't homesick, it was called culture shock.
Than
> about 6 months later a real homesick crises came. Another one was like a
> year later. Than I felt OK for almost two years. But the last one was
pretty
> damn severe, it forced me back to Turkey.
>
> Now I get homesick in my home country. Last weekend during one of those
> crises, I ordered tendon, ocha and nigiri moriawase and except for saba, I
> hate sushi and ocha has never been my favorite. Go figure...
>
> So going back home ain't no solution. In my case at least, I got two homes
> and I'm never fully at home.
>
> Things might be better for gaijin-gaijin couples though. Cause I'm pretty
> confident that both of them will have homesick about the same time and in
> worst case they will catch the next flight home.
>
>


Key point there. At either home, you never feel "fully" at home. It's
strange.