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I don't know much about funerals, so I need some help here....

The "o-tsuya" is a wake, isn't it? Not the formal funeral that's on the
next day? Are participants still expected to dress in black (with
pearls) and donate in one of those special envelopes? (Do I even have
enough black items of clothing?)

The first relevant page that comes up on Google is from Debito's site,
so I'm not sure how much to accept from that.

Would I go to the funeral too, or is it either/or? 

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